Goal setting is a life skill. If you think of goal setting as teaching a life skill rather than helping your child reach a destination, it can take the pressure off the big goal itself. Every little step towards a big goal is just as important as the trophy raising moment itself.
The problem with setting big goals is that they can be easily derailed. Even for adults, working towards a big or long term goal takes mental effort and commitment. It can be an emotional rollercoaster as failures and set backs are experienced. So for children, who are still developing emotional resilience, a failure on the road to a big goal can feed into low self esteem or lack of confidence. Although we don't want to smooth the road out too much for them, we do want to prepare one that provides just the right amount of resilience building 'bumps' along the way, giving them a chance to feel they've got some miles under their belt before they hit another bump in the road.
If there's 6 things to remember when setting goals with a child, it would be these:
Enjoy watching your child set goals and thrive!
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